Burnout. Not the fun kind

"Toby F., Manager" (itsmefromhr)
07/21/2019 at 01:29 • Filed to: None

According to this article I am experiencing burnout. This past week has been rough. I’m at the point where I feel my stress levels are elevated, that my anxiety has returned, and that I want to quit my job.

As much I’ve enjoyed and grown over the last two years, and as much as I dream about the long term opportunities that are available , I feel that I need to leave for newer pastures. I’ve been feeling complacent, overworked and underpaid, feeling spent and tired of the lack of change, progress and support.

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DISCUSSION (8)

phenotyp > Toby F., Manager
07/21/2019 at 01:44

Burnout marks are kinda a sleeve stripe of life. This is coming from someone who’s perpetually burned out, doing his own business, and not doing the stuff he wishes he were.

AestheticsInMotion > Toby F., Manager
07/21/2019 at 02:02

I’d say get out soon. I was right there at my last job, and when I left I spent about 2 days as an anxiety-riddled mess worrying about what was next , but after that things improved dramatically. There are infinite possibilities out there, no need to settle for a job that doesn't work for you

smobgirl > Toby F., Manager
07/21/2019 at 02:20

90% of my life has been 200% better since I left my last job. I could stand to be a little more financially stable, but even that’s not desperate enough that I’m looking to fill the void yet. I figure I’ll give myself a year doing what I’m doing now and then reevaluate.

pip bip - choose Corrour > Toby F., Manager
07/21/2019 at 03:07

sadly i can answer yes to several of those questions

ADabOfOppo; Gone Plaid (Instructables Can Be Confusable) > Toby F., Manager
07/21/2019 at 07:52

Posted this in another discussion. I know exactly how you feel.

I am a nervous wreck.

New ownership has taken over and utterly destroyed anything good about this place. They do not care to learn about what made us special. And seem to think that bullying customers into buying a car and putting a bow on it after they leave the finance office somehow constitutes a [Brand]-level luxury buying experience. All of our most tenured staff have left; one of whom had been with the company for 28 years, having started in the wash bays and worked his way up to sales manager.

Every day at work seems to be a fight for survival. I have a process that I am required to follow in order to keep our [Brand] corporate types happy. This does not seem to be important to the new PTB around here, nor do they care as it usually slows down their new sales process (and by process I mean one that reeks of desperation and must be done as quickly as humanly possible. Apparently moving as many units as possible is all there is now).

I’d find something else but I genuinely enjoy what I do. And, (I apologize for the #humblebrag, sadly it is necessary for context. I am not one to normally do that sort of thing) [Brand] considers me one of the 7 best people in the US at my job. I am attending another paid-for conference with [Brand] in August; this will be my third such trip to HQ. Leaving means giving up a great deal, both in terms of personal investment within this company, and professionally as this is the most successful I have ever been at anything job related.

So I feel trapped. I do not want to leave what I have put so much into. But I also hate working here now.

The constant stress has killed my appetite. I’ve lost ~10 pounds from not being able to eat because I am too stressed. And also because- #FoodHatesMe- I have serious food allergies and basically can’t eat anything anyway.

Thankfully I am not the primary income earner. So if it all goes sideways, I can get anything with a paycheck and we should be okay enough. Selfishly, I still want to make an upward move if I do leave. But, I know that may not be entirely realistic.

So yeah. Life basically sucks.

Khalbali > Toby F., Manager
07/21/2019 at 11:29

Yep literally all of those apply to me too.

You can tell a Finn but you can't tell him much > ADabOfOppo; Gone Plaid (Instructables Can Be Confusable)
07/21/2019 at 13:25

If you’re that highly rated by brand HQ, it seems it would be very easy for you to get a job at another dealer from that same brand. If there isn’t one close enough for that option, any other brand should see the value in your abilities and track record giving you a lot more options than you seem to realize you have.

ADabOfOppo; Gone Plaid (Instructables Can Be Confusable) > You can tell a Finn but you can't tell him much
07/21/2019 at 13:39

That is all true. Other dealers are an hour one-way commute, so sadly I can’t just go to another of the same dealer.

I could find the same job for another brand, but I am reluctant to let go of what I have accomplished thus far. But you are correct, at least I hope so, that any other brand would value what I have done if I need/ chose to move on.